You can see my point — almost everything has a positive side, and focusing on the positives make all the difference. Do work you love. An extension, of course, of doing the things you love, but applied to work. Are you already doing the work you love? I was passionate about writing, and so I pursued blogging … and with a year of hard work, was able to quit my day job and blog full time.
Lose yourself in your work. There are few work-related joys that equal this feeling.
Read more. Help others. Is there any better feeling than helping a fellow human being? Find time for peace. But if you can make time for solitude and quiet, it can be one of the happiest parts of your day. Notice the small things. Instead of waiting for the big things to happen — marriage, kids, house, nice car, big promotion, winning the lottery — find happiness in the small things that happen every day. Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in the early morning hours, or the delicious and simple taste of berries, or the pleasure of reading a book with your child, or taking a walk with your partner.
Noticing these small pleasures, throughout your day, makes a huge difference. Develop compassion. Compassion is developing a sense of shared suffering with others … and taking steps to alleviate the suffering of others. I think too often we forget about the suffering of others while focusing on our own suffering, and if we learned to share the suffering of others, our suffering would seem insignificant as a result.
Compassion is an extremely valuable skill to learn, and you get better with practice. Be grateful. It helps us to appreciate what we have and what we have received, and the people who have helped us. Become a lifelong learner.
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I find an inordinate amount of pleasure in reading, in learning about new things, in enriching my knowledge as I get older. I think spending time reading some of the classics, as well as passionately pursuing new interests, is energy well invested. Simplify your life. This is really about identifying the things you love see above and then eliminating everything else as much as possible.
By simplifying your life in this way, you create time for your happiness, and you reduce the stress and chaos in your life. In my experience, living a very simple life is also a pleasure in itself. Slow down. Schedule less things on your calendar, and more space between things. Going slowly helps to reduce stress, and improve the pleasure of doing things, and keeps you in the present moment.
I feel joyful every time I go out for a run! You can do it right now: close your eyes and simply try to focus on your breathing as long as possible. Pay attention to the breath as it comes into your body, and then as it goes out. Learn to accept. One of the challenges for people like me — people who want to improve themselves and change the world — is learning to accept things as they are.
Spend time in nature. You might be working on a presentation or article, but your mind is already on the topic you will cover in the next one. Even at home you might be doing dishes, but your mind is making a mental list of other chores you need to tackle. This tendency to focus on getting things done is, of course, not categorically negative—accomplishments are good things!
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And you may even pride yourself on your willpower. The problem comes, however, when we keep delaying our happiness in favor of getting more things done so that we can be even happier later—or so we think. This delaying process can go on forever, turning into workaholism, which damages the very success and happiness we are seeking. The reason we are so hooked on getting things done is that we believe the payoff that comes from achievements—an award or a larger savings account—will ultimately lead to the biggest payoff of all: happiness.
We have the illusion that the success, fame, money—fill in the blank—that we are chasing will bring us some kind of lasting fulfillment. But there are major problems with constantly trying to get things done and focusing on the next thing: doing so ironically prevents you from being as successful as you want to be and wreaks havoc on body and mind. From the outside we may look like we have it all, but on the inside, we are burned out, not performing to our highest level, and feeling miserable both emotionally and physically, while our relationships suffer.
Paradoxically, slowing down and focusing on what is happening in front of you right now—being present instead of always having your mind on the next thing—will make you much more successful. Research shows that remaining present—rather than constantly focusing on what you have to do next—will make you more productive and happier and, moreover, will give you that elusive quality we attribute to the most successful people: charisma. Given the demands of this day and age and the pervasiveness of technology, you inevitably experience multiple personal and professional demands at any one time: you may be in a meeting at work but also watching for incoming texts from your spouse, who needs a ride home, or you may be finishing a work document while keeping an eye on emails so you can respond to a client right away.
Some workplaces expect you to be on top of your inbox at all times of the day. Even when there is no urgency involved, multitasking has become a way of life. You have become used to checking your phone while working, while spending time with your family, and even at the gym and during vacations. Multitasking, instead of helping us accomplish more things faster, actually keeps us from doing anything well.
When you are performing any individual task, if you are able to give it your undivided attention, you will accomplish it far more efficiently and quickly while also enjoying the process. When we are caught up in multitasking or preoccupied with the next thing we need to cross off the to-do list, not only are we harming our performance, we may be harming our well-being.
One study found that the more people engaged in media multitasking from word processing to text messaging and email , the higher their anxiety and depression levels tended to be. If you are constantly being pulled in several different directions, it is only natural that you will feel more stressed and overwhelmed. On the other hand, research shows that when we are completely in tune with what we are doing, we more fully enjoy that activity.
Moreover, being completely present allows us to enter a state of complete absorption that is extremely productive. Think of a time when you were faced with a project you were dreading. You knew it would involve a lot of effort; maybe you kept putting it off. Once you started, however—perhaps finally egged on by an impending deadline—you became engaged and the project just flowed.
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You found that you actually enjoyed the process. You became highly productive because you focused completely on the task at hand. Instead of being stressed about the future and having your attention pulled in different directions, you got the work done and done well, and you were happy to boot. In other words, we are mentally checked out half of the time. They found that when we are in the present moment, we are also at our happiest, no matter what we are doing. Why does the present makes us happy? Because we fully experience the things going on around us. Instead of getting caught up in a race to accomplish more things faster, we slow down and are actually with the people we are with, immersed in the ideas being discussed and fully engaged in our projects.
By being present, you will enter a state of flow that is highly productive and will become more charismatic, making people around you feel understood and supported. You will have good relationships, which are one of the biggest predictors of success and happiness. Bringing your mind back into the present can seem daunting. The first step is awareness.
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When you notice that your mind is going toward future-oriented thoughts, you can choose not to follow the train of thought—instead, you can nudge your mind back into the present. Try reorienting your attention fully on what is going on in front of you. This exercise is not easy at first, but, like working a muscle, you can strengthen your ability to stay present by repeating this exercise over and over again. Like learning a sport, it takes training. So this and the following five exercises, when done regularly, can help you be present more easily.
One of the greatest exercises in presence and joy is to spend a half-day or whole day on a technology fast, ideally in nature, without a schedule. That means no screen time. Let your mind rest and relax.
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Take aimless walks. Contemplate the sky.
It may even make you uncomfortable, but see if you can move past that state. The mind takes some time to settle down. You can learn to relax your mind. The quality of your life and work depends on it. Being ambitious and having goals is essential. To actually achieve those goals to the best of your ability, however, you need to try your best to remain present. Being present allows you to find fulfillment in the moment, in the task at hand—rather than in some distant future, after you have achieved everything and ticked every last task off your list.
That joy in turn leads you to perform better, be more productive, become charismatic and build better relationships. Start with a minute exercise.
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- Aurélien Malte (Contemporain t. 745) (French Edition).
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- LULITA LA ESTRELLA MARINA (1) (Spanish Edition).
- Sons and Lovers [with Biographical Introduction].